I don't want to talk about my gender or be Encyclopedia Trans for you now - or perhaps ever. But here's what I want to add: I don't really want to talk about most or any of this with you, random App Man. They urge you to not assume our pronouns, the names we prefer to call our genitalia or other parts of our body, if we've had top or lower surgery, or how we like to have sex. But Before You Ask, Ask About Asking.Īnything ever written about pursuing trans partners usually focuses on one key thing: We are all different from one another, and your assumptions may be wrong. So you'll see some quotes and reminders from some of the fine folks there in this piece as well, though there is much more than can and should be said, particularly from the perspective of those who have had lower surgeries. I also posted a query to a Facebook group that centers transgender men and transmasculine people who have sex with (cis and/or trans) men. Here you'll find some pointers, primarily from my personal perspective, for those of you who may be cis men who appreciate how ridiculously sexy I am and want to know how to do right by me, at least in the casual sex department.
